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African Americans and Interracial Dating: Who’s Dating Whom?

Amaga — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 18:27:17 +0000

Important change is said to be occurring according to TV Programming Shows.
When it comes to interracial dating and marrying for African Americans, an important difference is being made between women and men. This gender difference is actually quite substantial and it seems to be changing. The changes frequency is increasing in the last few years, it being especially proved by popular television programs.

This gender imbalance felt by African American women when dating and marrying people of different races is still substantial according to 2000 Census. All these facts, including the one to say that it is harder for African American women to find men to date and to marry, most of all because of the gender imbalance, have been thoroughly discussed in magazines and popular daytime shows.
It says that African American men were more likely to date and marry white women than African American women were to date and marry white men. According to the statistics, the couples where the husband was black and the wife was white composed circa 73 percent of African American/white interracial couples, because the percentage of African American women having white husbands was 2 (1/2) times less than the percentage of African American men having white wives. More than that, in unmarried African American/white couples living together, this percentage was even five times less.
According to the annual Current Population Survey reports published by the Census Bureau, after the 2000 Census has been issued, the number of white husband/African American wife couples was higher than before, but all these statistics were in the same time too little reliable for they were based on too small sample sizes. There has been made a small survey of college students who have also proved that there is a shift in the gender balances of African American/white interracial couples.
The survey was made among the students of 629 East Carolina University. They had completed an anonymous questionnaire based on the students willingness to have an interracial relationship. The number of those who were open towards this kind of relationship was almost a half of the students, among them nearly one-fourth that were already involved in an interracial relationship. More than that, ninety-two of those who had already had experience with this kind of relationships were not against repeating the experience. Even if there were more African Americans than whites who were eager to accept an interracial relationship, still there were no important gender differences between the students who were open to African American/white interracial relationships and those who were not.
If popular culture is to be considered a reflection of its participants experience, then why not revise a few television programs that promote interracial dating and marriage, especially with African American wife/white husband couples? Let’s look through some of them…
Let’s remind ourselves of the so much popular Friends series. In some episodes at the end of the series, there are two white men (Joey and Ross, the last one being Jewish) who dated an African American beautiful woman, an anthropologist by profession. In the end, she goes back to the white university professor she was dating before dating Joey. In the Firefly series, by Joss Whedon, which were shown first on Fox and then on SciFi channel, prior to the hit movie Serenity, there was a couple, where the wife, Zoe, was an African American kick-butt right-hand-’man’ to the Captain and the husband, Wash, was a white man, Firefly’s pilot. And in the so much criticized and well-known series of Lost, its viewers were shocked when the African American woman Rose’s husband, Bernard, was found alive and, besides all, he was found to be white too! And when you come to think that there were a lot of viewers who were almost sure Bernard to be an African American…
Another popular show, a Fox’s medical show, House, M.D., in its second season now, has shown a few interracial couples in its episodes. In “Maternity” of Season One, there was a funny scene with an African American woman working intensely and her white husband, who, because of an epidemic in the hospital, was turned away from it. In Season Two there is another episode that shows us an interracial couple of a white man and an African American wife. Apparently, she is very stressed by the loss of her husband’s ability of expressing himself verbally. And in the series of Supernatural, a new hit shown on Bothered is also an episode where one of the two white male main characters remembers a girl, whose mother was white and whose father was an African American, with whom he used to have an interracial relationship a time before. There are absolutely no racial differences shown in these episodes, all we see is just a nice and loving relationship between the two of them.
In conclusion, the entire previous example have proved us that race in a relationship is a non-issue. The couples of African American females and white males were not shown as tragic, heroic or melodramatic, but simply as normal relationships. This is a significant shift from the interracial relationships so-much portrayed a few years ago, where the male was African American and the female was white. Is this the end or the story is to be continued more on? We can only hope so and wait to see what happens next, so just stay tuned…

Why Use Online Dating

Amaga — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 05:55:30 +0000

The question should be put like this:”Why not use online dating?” The majority of single people nowadays are too busy and too occupied to be able to constantly meet new people and find someone to date with. Their lifestyles include too little spare time for this, because they work more and more, they spend a lot more time than before trying to keep fit and so on.
This kind of meeting new people, Internet dating, has become very frequent all over the UK today and there are more and more people who have a positive attitude towards it. Singles are no longer so scared when it comes to dating web sites or dating events. The members of such communities are no longer only people in their 40s and up or desperate people who don’t like to go out much, there are more open-minded singletons that realize all the good parts of online dating.

What’s the Big Deal?
There are a lot of benefits online dating sites can bring and online dating should no longer be considered a desperate method of meeting new people.
What’s the big deal anyway in attending a club of singletons with whom you can get in touch any time? There is absolutely nothing bad in it! Besides, it’s very safe, for you’re not obliged to give away your personal email addresses, telephone numbers and so on; it takes you very little time, especially if you know how to type quickly, and it takes just some minutes to write messages or send short emails. And when you come to think, there are so many chances for the recipient of your message to be a possible future date of yours! Now, isn’t that great?
Isn’t it better than going out to bars and finding people who can be already engaged or face failures when finding out you have met the wrong person? It’s easier, because you don’t even have to leave the house!
Does Internet Dating Really Work?
Yes, yes and one more time yes! Hundreds and thousands of singles all over the globe, involved in online dating, have proved for themselves that it’s a good thing and it really works. Believe it or not, you can easily be one of them!
It really doesn’t have any importance where and how you meet new people as long as you do meet them. Be the result of your dating online what it is, you will surely make some new friends there, even if you won’t find the one you’re looking for. So, it’s better for you not to make illusions to obligatory find that perfect someone, for it may not happen too.
Just keep an open mind, get to know new people and have a lot of fun!

Conclusion To: Male and Female Brain Differences and How They Affect Dating

Amaga — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 18:52:45 +0000

One of the main differences between men and women is that men are considered to be the more aggressive of the two sexes, if not the only aggressive sex. Now this is wrong, because not only men have aggressive circuits-women had them too, except that they use them in a different way. When resolving a conflict, a man will want to resolve it by physical power, women would resolve it by talking or even by applying psychology. They would more frequently use the phrase “stop being selfish” than actually try to dominate by using physical power. This thing can be explained by the fact that men’s sex and aggression centers are larger than women’s. Moreover, if our society would have been totally led by women, there would be verbal and psychological manipulation instead of physical force. But nowadays, this age of physical domination (6000bc to 2000ad ?) is coming to an end, as we see more and more men using persuasion in politics or business. Women are beginning to attain power. But, of course, even during this age of physical domination, there were exceptions. There had existed matriarchal societies, but, unfortunately, very little is known about them.

Body Language is a very important skill, which a man needs to develop, unlike women who have always been masters at this and also at mimicry and at the tone of their voice-these skills are natural and normal in them. That’s why when a man wants to be successful at women and in dating, he should be able to keep up with women at what body language, voice tonality, facial expression and so on mean.
Many times both men and women expect their partners to behave like them and even try to change them, which isn’t right at all and which is, besides, all in vain. To change your partner implies changing his/her brain structure that differentiates men and women. These basic brain functions can never be changed, even if new skills are acquired and there is desire to change them. We have to accept that men and women are very different: women like to talk much, men often don’t like to spend too many words; women put romance above all, men put sex above all. All these tendencies are just a normal state of things.
Men and women are so different that even when one sex beats the opposite one in something, it doesn’t matter in what-when men beat women in etiquette or when women beat men in computer games, the parts of the brain used, which are responsible for these functions or functions alike, differ at men and women. There has been done an experiment: the brains of both men and women doing IQ tests have been scanned and the results have revealed that even with the same tests results, females use different aspects of their brain to solve the same problems as men.
Do what we do, the two sexes will always remain as they are: opposite and different, so we should accept this and respect this difference for developing good and successful relationships and that includes dating too.

Want be friends with your ex-partner?

Amaga — Thu, 03 May 2007 05:16:04 +0000

1. Time is the all-important factor. One needs to put the past behind them and feel as if they have moved on to another chapter in their lives. If one person is still in love and wants the relationship to continue, time must separate the two, until that person realises that he or she is moving on in life without the other as a special, intimate companion.

2. No sex please, we are just friends. Don’t even think about sex with the ex. You’ll be back where the troubles all began.

3. Avoid talking with your ex about your old relationship when you are trying to be friends.

4. There may be some attraction left, at least for one of you. Maintain some discipline with each other, especially at the beginning of the friendship. Limit how much time you spend together, how long should phone calls last and what kind of questions are asked.

5. Don’t talk about who you are dating now. – at least not until you are at the point where you are completely comfortable as friends.

6. Avoid the old behavioral patterns that defined your romantic relationship. No holding hands or gazing!

How to determine whether or not you are friends or more than friends

Amaga — Mon, 23 Apr 2007 00:37:35 +0000

This is such a tricky topic, because many people (guys and girls to be exact) normally engage in an intimate moment every now and then, this usually sparks up some commotion of whether or not the two that are “hooking” up are more than just friends. A few things you can do to figure out whether or not you and someone are together are to discuss the facts with each other. If you and the person you are hooking up with have other qualities, then it’s definitely possible to be both mentally compatible along with physically compatible. People who go along the lines of “friends with benefits” know what I am talking about because there usually is mostly physical attraction between the two of you.
One problem that many girls usually face when they are involved in a friends with benefits type thing is they are categorized a sluts or whores, this can be the case because if you are having sex without protection, it can cause many more problems down the road, unless you are having the people you are having sex with tested for STD’s. The younger the person, the better chances you have, because the statistics show that older people are more prone to sexually transmitted diseases, but if you’re in college it’s always safe to be tested.

One of the larger problems that engage in this situation is fooling around with someone who is already in a relationship, this is known as cheating. One thing that revolves around the problem is if a girl is very good friends with a guy while she is dating another guy. If she is messing around with her good friend then she could screw things up with her boyfriend and even her friend, so you should definitely discuss with your friend before engaging in any type of intimacy. I would highly recommend that you don’t, unless you are single. The problems that are caused by situations like these are usually unfixable.

Want be friends with your ex-partner?

Man and woman friendship

Amaga — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 01:34:09 +0000

Do you have friends of the opposite sex? I consider myself quite a broad-minded person, who is open to build relationships that are not all about sex, but none of the friendships with the opposite sex survived long enough. What’s the matter?

I think that any relationships that involve individuals of the opposite sex always have an air of “that thing”. You cannot deny it. Like flirt is the same “light erotic turn-on” towards the object of your interest, friendship is a kind of latent sex attraction that one day will just find its way out. The only exception I see is in a situation where your friend has homosexual orientation.

Just think when we say this phrase: “Can we just be friends?” Right, when we know there is no chance for any sexual relationships with that person. No one actually expects to keep a friendship alive, as that is a best excuse not to hurt someone’s feelings.
As for the friendship itself, it’s hard to say there is nothing going on between two of you, when you obviously find each other to be a nice companion to share your thoughts and feelings. If you find that person sexually attractive, you unconsciously put your energy to get close to him. May be friendship is this very way to start something more intimate.
In fact does a friendship between men and women exist? As the old saying: men are from Mars and women are from Venus. We can have a lot of common interests and share tastes, but when facing each other we rarely find that much mutual thing unless we are attuned to. I am not sure whether my point of view is somewhat feminine, but no man will make me believe that his intentions are “far from sexual interests”. That interest may not manifest itself as a pure “get laid” thing, but it almost always have the element of sexual attraction which under happy circumstances will end up with the question:” What are you doing tonight?”