How to Break Up 10 Ways to Break Up Graciously
Posted on 06. Mar, 2007 in Dating Tips, Relationships Advice
Many of us decide, at some point in time, to break up. It doesn’t matter whether it is your own decision or the decision of your partner; it has to be done in a special way that would decrease the after break up pain. There are some suggested ways of breaking up graciously:
1. Honesty
You have to be honest about your feelings to your partner. In case there are differences in approaches and you feel you are completely different, be honest to tell this as soon as possible.
2. Don’t postpone
When you feel you are fed up with some annoying habits of your partner which are becoming frequent, don’t think the situation is going to chance in time. Don’t make favors to your partner by delaying your decision because a late decision may hurt stronger.
3. After break up friendship
If your personal relations resulted from a good friendship, don’t count on the same relations after you break up.
You will never get the same attitude, that’s why you don’t need to ask about this your partner.
4. Overlapping
You have to break up before stating to meet someone else. This may serve as a prerequisite for the first conflict with your new partner. As well, this may build a degree of uncertainty and doubt in your new partner and you will have to work his confidence over a long period of time.
5. Choose the best place
You shall choose a place with as fewer people as possible in order to avoid his humiliation. As well, if you don’t want to spoil your romantic history, choose a different place than the one where you dated.
6. Listening
Maybe you feel you don’t need to explain as soon as you decide to break up, but your partner may be interested in the cause of this decision. He/she will try to search the weak or negative points in your relation and try to explain you have to change your mind. Give him/her to say everything and explain why you have taken this decision. Try to imagine in the opposite situation and explain as less harmful as possible your decision and possible advantages of your end up relationship.
7. Who is guilty
When you take this decision, don’t feel guilty of offending your partner. He/she will certainly try to explain and ask not leave and promises change the situation. You have to be certain of your decision and give clear arguments in explaining your points of view. If you finally change your mind, you will start to hate your partner more.
8. A letter
In case you don’t know his reaction, you may write him a letter and give personally. Explain why you want to do this step and ask to read and after discuss this matter.
9. Don’t get around
If you decide to break up, explain clearly this to your partner. You may try to avoid speaking to the point, but this makes your partner suffer more and think he/she is guilty. Get straight to the point and give reasonable arguments.
10. Manage the situation
If you already imagined how you have to do this, don’t loose you point in your conversation. Do it to get what you wanted to get. Deviation from the subject may lead to misunderstanding.
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