10 Tips to Getting a Second Date and Beyond
Posted on 17. Jul, 2007 in Dating Tips, Relationships Advice
It seems that the main problem for singles is not how to meet people but how to maintain the relation after the first dates. How can men keep their manhood without being too dominant? How can women let men know they are interested without appearing too confident?
For many men is a surprise when they learn that even the most called liberated woman says that it is ok and even needed for men to be the one who pursue the relationship, especially in critical beginning steps.
Many women, priding themselves on being independent, understood that this is not so good for a relationship, it is not the way to keep a men interested. Like any other human being, man has to be needed, to be recognized. And how can he feel pleased rather then to offer some specific masculine “services”. So, those too independent women are advised to let men play their role: ex offering their protection or support. But also women should not forget that attaining the unattainable is a sport for many men; it is what drives them.
Sometimes women are too quick to open themselves, in term of time, emotions or physically. And this can be detrimental to them. In general men like to fight for something unattainable; they like to demonstrate their skills. And also in this way the lady keeps her charm. In many cases if the woman is available too soon, the man get bored of her. But of course we should not generalize. It depends on the character, situation and so on.
I have been asked many times by men what is the secret about women, what turns them on and off, especially at the beginning of the relationship.
Some of these tips are quite basic. But it seems that many “good guys” forget about them, and then they ask what they have done. Usually, it’s something so basic that it’s almost embarrassing to say. Women know that it isn’t so much that men intend to be rude or inconsiderate. Sometimes it’s just that they aren’t sure which direction to take… after all, as diverse as women are, they aren’t exactly “easy” to deal with. One thing is certain: two important factors for a possible successful relationship are communication and respect, and it is on that which the following tips are based. But also it should not be forget the existence of physical chemistry.
So, here are some suggestions for making the first dates to have continuous: try them, they may work. But also you should not forget that you also play an important role; it depends also on you. So, here are they:
So, fasten your seat belts! It’s gonna be a bumpy ride!
1. The first step belongs to men.
The first step belongs to men. Women should not do it. Why? In a recent relationship survey it was showed that the majority of broken relations were initiated by women. This doesn’t mean that women have to do nothing. Their role is even more important than that. Before the man to have the initiative to propose something, the woman has to fascinate him. 
So, every one has to play his role. But we should also understand the situations of some woman that really have to take the initiative. If she really wants to meet the guy, and she doesn’t care about stereotypes, maybe it could be some good exceptions .
2. Be active and interested during the meeting.
During the meeting be interested in her, focus on her, listen and not just talking. When you are together try not to stare at other women. You’ll have time for this with your friends. Dedicate this moment just to you and your partner. Try to remember important dates, such as her birthday, Valentine’s Day and later, your anniversary. On this occasions try to create a romantic atmosphere, do something original, maybe crazy. Try to make her feel important for you. This, of course, if you really want this… Be sincere…
3. Try to forget about Possessiveness.
Until you are really committed in a relationship, neither of you have the obligation to give explanations about how, with whom do you spend time. Possessiveness is a very bad habit, and can easy destroy a relation. Don’t forget, like every human being, the woman has the need of some liberty. If not, she will loose her energy and glamour.
4. Who pays?
It doesn’t seem fair, but this is a universal law. If you respect that woman and you want a long-term relation, it will not bother you that you’ll have to pay the bill. On contrary, you’ll insist. So, again firstly you have to know what you really want.
5. The first call.
Men should do the calling, at least in the beginning. If you are interested, you should call, if not, someone else will. Don’t forget about the men’s role: pursuing. You have to let her know about your feelings. But if you really like her, you’ll do this entire natural.
6. Arrange Dates Early in the Week.
Don’t call her for an invitation in the last minute. This is rude. She can have plans for that time. So, be strategic
7. Sex?
Don’t rush. Don’t get to intimacy on the first date. Men should not propose, and women should not accept. This will come naturally. The mutual respect will be noted and can only serve to enhance the relationship when the time comes. In such a way the pleasure is longer…
8. Treat each other the way you would like to be treated.
Try to be empathetic, try to communicate more, in such a way, both of you will know what to do to make the relationship to grow. Try to treat the person near you, like you would like to be treated, and will happen. You’ll be treated so.
9. Openness and sincerely.
Again, it depends on what you want from that woman. Openness and sincerely are some necessarily items for a serious relationship. Don’t joke on serious matters, if not in other cases it will be hard to convince that you mean it. So, don’t play with jokes in some situations or themes. Be aware of your temptations.
10. Maintain These Points.
If you utilize these suggestions in a serious relationship, you have a great chance to succeed, if of course there is a truly attraction…
Some of these tips only apply to people you are truly interested in getting serious with. Obviously, casual involvements would not require this level of maintenance – but if they’re special and you want them to know it, practice these tips and you could very well be on your way to attaining the relationship of your dreams! Even if this doesn’t happen, it’s a good idea to adopt these “manners,” since it only serves to assist you in accomplishing your relationship goals. Besides, it can only make you look good, and having manners never hurt anyone!
Related posts:
Leave a reply